Do you know what you really want from life? I don’t just mean materially. I mean, do you know what you are working towards? Or, are you drifting through life, letting circumstances take you where they will?
Do you know that you have a choice in the matter?
It can be really frustrating to feel aimless and out of control. I think a lot of us tend to forget that we can choose our path.
Wouldn’t you rather know where you’d like to go, and then have a plan for getting there? I know I would.
Of course, this obviously doesn’t mean you can’t adjust things as you go along. Life is unpredictable, so we have to adjust, really. We have to remain flexible. And, feelings and preferences change over time, as well. So, where you end up may not be what you hope for, right now, in this season of life.
And yet, it is still worth creating a plan and being intentional about your direction in life. It helps you to feel more in control, and to find more fulfillment. Instead of drifting, now you are living with purpose to your days.
For myself, I would like to reach the following goals in my life:
- Shrink down to a healthier weight
- Live a more active and healthy lifestyle
- Earn enough money from self-employment to live financially secure
- Make an impact on others’ lives through my work
- Buy property & have my dream-house built (the one I designed, myself)
- Continue to grow, both spiritually and professionally
- Lead a teen girls’ Bible study group
- Travel… see more of the world
- Support my favorite charities (Kiva, Mercy House Global, Room to Read)
Having this list, and knowing what I would really love to accomplish, helps me to know what steps I need to take in order to achieve those goals.
For example, in my health pursuits, I already know –from trial & error– that intuitive eating is the best method for me. But, in addition to that, I’ve also come to realize that my dependence on processed foods is no longer working for me (if it ever did!), because I am developing more and more health issues. I’m beginning to see how much truth there is in what they say about your body needing nutrients, not just calories (in other words, our choice of food matters, even more than how often or how much we eat).
I was super excited, recently, to find a blog called, “Hello, Nutritarian!“, which is based off of the principles found in Dr. Joel Fuhrman’s books (“Eat to Live; “The End of Dieting“).* This blog provides recipes and guidance on how to eat a cleaner, more whole-foods based diet. And that’s just what I know I need.
Also in regards to my health, I came across a gal, last week, who was once where I am at (size 18, currently), but who went on to win a figure competition (which is not something I am aiming for!), and to maintain a completely transformed lifestyle. She is now active every day, eating healthy/clean, and she’s changing others’ lives by paying-it-forward as a healthy living coach (same company I’m with).
This gal’s total life transformation really inspires me — especially since I’m currently at the same weight she started at. If she can do it, I know that I can achieve similar things. It takes a decision —that I am no longer willing to put up with my poor health habits– and making a full commitment to myself and to the better life that I know is possible!
The great thing about all of these health goals, for me, is that I am in a position to help others change their lives… just by being an example for them to follow. By committing to a healthier lifestyle for myself, I have a chance to allow others to watch me and to see that they, too, can have the success they seek (you can, as well!). We are all in it together! And, because this is my work, I earn my living from helping others transform their lives. So, that also ties into my goal of becoming financially secure.
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I believe we all have what it takes to achieve our goals. But, we first need to be aware that we have a choice in the direction our lives are going to go, and then we have to know what it is we want so that we can make a plan, and make a decision to go after it. We need to commit to doing whatever is necessary. It won’t be easy — it’s going to demand hard work and sacrifices — but I know that it’ll be worth it.
Here’s to living your life on purpose!
Do you have an alter-ego — a vision in your mind of who you would like to become? Maybe you’ve made attempts to change and become that person by making lists of what you need to do to change into that version of yourself. But, what if there was a better way? What if, instead, you focused on the who, rather than the what?
I came across this fantastic quote, a while back:
Powerful stuff. And, it ties right in with what James Clear says about identity-based habits.
Nia, at SipBlack.net, also wrote about these identity-based habits. She says:
“You need to become the kind of person who can reach those lofty goals. Be committed to embodying that individual. Then stop thinking like you, and start thinking like that other person… Create someone, if you must… If you won’t get it together, then becomesomeone who will.”
Nia also writes:
“Reinventing yourself makes you aware of the sheer power of the mind… you can become anyone you want, do anything you want.”
So many times we try to begin with deciding to change our actions. And, while this might work for a time, many of us find ourselves falling back into the same old patterns.
Taking on a new persona, however, is based on a mindset shift… and this, truly, is key to any lasting change.
I think it’s important to remember here, that what is changing is what you do, when you do it, and how you do it. You aren’t necessarily changing your fundamental beliefs or values.
For example, my own alter-ego is someone who still holds to Christian beliefs, and values Freedom & Authenticity. However, this “better me” is someone who:
- follows a daily schedule
- obeys God without hesitation
- eats wholesome, nutritious food 90% of the time
- is capable of defending herself, if need be
- is confident and secure in who she is
Basically, she excels where I often find myself lacking. In acting as though I am this other persona, I am just acting in the way I would truly prefer to be acting, anyway. In so doing, I’m leveling up!
So, if you could reinvent yourself, who would you become? What does this better version of you look like? Feel free to comment below!